You are not special. You are not irreplaceable
Have you ever attended a social gathering, a lecture, or a meeting with alumni and contemplated the reason behind focusing solely on positive experiences shared by individuals? It could be the benefit of connections, the power of communication, or anything else in a positive way. One potential explanation could be attributed to how our brain works. The human brain loves something that makes us joyful, since it results in endorphins. Sad or negative stories can sometimes trigger bad things. It does not generate endorphins. Another potential factor could be individuals’ concern about publicly showing their vulnerabilities. Nevertheless, a different story shared by an alumna of Communication Leadership at the University of Washington deeply resonated with some people. To be underlined, the narrative is not simply about positive aspects.
Please meet Sophia Kristina. She is a Director for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion at the Washington State Board for Community and Technical College. Sophia, being an immigrant, has undergone a series of developmental events that have contributed to her current identity. One aspect is about the importance of realizing that an individual is authentic but, at the same time, not that special because an individual is replaceable. “In particular, when we talk in a work setting, not only here in the state but also all around the world,” she added.
On the other hand, Lloyd Carney, the Chief Executive Officer of Brocade, gave his own story in discussing this issue, as documented on themuse.com. He said, “My grandfather used to do this thing called the bucket test. He would be arguing with one of his employees, and he’d call me in and say, ‘Get a bucket of water.’ So, I’d bring the bucket of water to the room, and he’d say, ‘Lloydie, put your hand in the water.’ Then I’d take it out, and he’d say to his employee, ‘See that hole that Lloyd left in the water? That’s the hole you are going to leave when you leave here.”
The work situation today is that fluid. Everything happens at a rapid pace, including when an employee leaves a company. There is already a long line waiting to occupy the position. This sarcastic yet realistic advice may be a topic that is rarely addressed in public conversation, particularly in a wide audience session. In addition, a study from Johns Hopkins Carey Business School (2021) revealed that seeing other people's big triumphs can help us feel more motivated than usual. This research could serve as supporting proof for the prevalence of people highlighting their accomplishments in numerous talking sessions.
The ’you-are-not-special-and-irreplaceable’ argument voiced by Sophia may be perceived as a negative sentiment by certain people. However, for others, it could be valuable advice. It could be a cautionary reminder to prioritize self-respect. In today's world, which is marked by constant flux, individuals often find themselves engaging in extended work hours. The deadline is maniac, and the goal is ambitious. In many cases, the employee holds the belief that their contribution holds the utmost significance. In certain contexts, there may be advantages to the situation being discussed; nonetheless, we are not talking about that narrative. In essence, the point of the replaceable wants to encourage individuals to have a holistic view of their role at work: set boundaries and priorities.
Conversely, speaking of replaceable, it is more prudent to aspire to be an individual who is difficult to replace. This statement means—in a simple sentence—making your very best at work, the best one, but at the end of the day, stay lowkey, because you are not special and you are not irreplaceable. How does it sound? Does it cause confusion for you?
“Be yourself; everybody else is taken." -Oscar Wilde